Autism Support
Behaviour
Understanding behaviour differences in Autistic children.
Behaviour
Behaviour means the things a child or young person does. It can show us how they are feeling inside.
What behaviour can tell us
- Some behaviours, like spinning, might show a child is happy and relaxed. We don’t need to stop this – we can give them space to do it safely.
- Sometimes behaviour can be unsafe. For example, if a child is spinning but also crying and bumping into things, it might mean something is wrong.
Be a behaviour detective!
Ask: “What is this behaviour trying to tell us?”
Maybe the child is:
- In pain.
- Feeling worried.
- Struggling with sensory differences.
If you’re worried about safety
If a child or family is not safe, call Children’s Social Services: 0121 303 1888
Why behaviour might happen
1. Sensory differences
Some children feel things (like sound, light, or touch) very strongly. This is called sensory processing differences.
2. Communication difficulties
If a child can’t say how they feel or what they need, they might show it through their body.
3. Anxiety or stress
Changes, busy places, or not knowing what’s happening can make a child feel anxious.
4. Not understanding social rules
Things like taking turns or personal space can be hard to understand.
5. Need for routine
Sudden changes can be upsetting. Routines help children feel safe.
6. Pain or illness
If a child is in pain or feeling unwell but can’t explain it, they might show it through behaviour. Call your GP if you’re worried. For emergencies, call 999 or go to A&E.
7. Stimming
Repetitive actions like hand-flapping or rocking can help a child feel calm.
8. Meltdowns
A meltdown is when a child feels completely overwhelmed and very stressed.
Important to remember
- Distressed behaviour is not the child’s fault.
- It’s often a way of coping or communicating.
- If we understand the cause, we can give better support.
Where to get help
- Autism West Midlands
- Family Lives: help with behaviour support. Telephone: 0808 800 2222.
- Newbold Hope: helps families understand and manage difficult behaviours in children with disabilities.
- Youth Justice Service (Birmingham): Kingsmere, 18 Gravelly Hill North, Erdington, Birmingham, B23 6BQ. Telephone: 0121 464 0600.